Dating korean advice
Most Korean men cannot or will not marry a foreign woman.
This is especially true with first or only sons and men in their late twenties who have a good job and are from wealthier families (as they are considered top-pickin's by Korean standards, and their mothers will be a lot less open-minded because no one is ever good enough for their little prince, especially not some dirty foreign, girl who doesn't even know how to make 된장찌개! There are some very unfortunate, general prejudices Koreans have about the purity of the Han race.
Min Gi and I will celebrate our anniversary on Sunday--our first date was one whole year ago!
A little bit ago, The Metropolitician posted an interesting and insightful blog about some of the more obscure cultural issues he's faced when dating Korean women.
These show up strongest when a young man foolishly falls in love with a non-Korean girl, as in the fifties it was fairly common for white folks to have a "I don't mind those black people, so long as my son/daughter doesn't bring one home" attitude. But ladies, do you really want to marry someone who's going to think those things about ?
That makes a long-term relationship or marriage extremely difficult. The same principle applies everywhere: Korean men are exactly the same as all men. But many men are your classic, stuck-in-the-1960s type of Koreans whose hobbies include beating their wives. Regardless of going through a broker or not, watch out for older Korean men (in 30s~40s as opposed to in early 20s), for the simple reason that older Korean men are more likely to be racist, manipulative, and disrespectful to women.Before you send that email to the address on the bottom, please, please, PLEASE think through your situation, eliminate ALL possible non-cultural explanations first, and then ask if you have to.-EDIT 3/20/2008 a.m.- SPECIAL ADVISORY TO LADIES FROM PHILIPPINES, VIETNAM, AND OTHER SOUTHEAST ASIAN COUNTRIES The Korean recently noticed that many people from above countries (presumably women) are getting to this particular post through Googling for "Korean men".Your situation tends to be somewhat different from regular dating, so please read this carefully. It's safe to say that in many cases, your relationship will not be based on respect.The Korean will say this one more time: Korean men are men before they are Korean.Whatever relationship problem you are having, 99 percent of it has to do with the fact that he is a man, and maybe 1 percent of it has to do with the fact that he is Korean.